“So I beg you to reaffirm your love for him” (v8). Paul was concerned for the well-being of the repentant sinner. Whatever discipline (probably a time of being excluded from the community, v6) had already happened was sufficient. Now, “you should rather turn to forgive and comfort him, or he may be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow” (v7). By accepting and loving this person, they were rejecting Satan’s schemes to divide them (v11).
“For I wrote to you out of much affliction and anguish of heart and with many tears … to let you know the abundant love that I have for you” (v4). Discipline that helps, not hurts, comes from a heart of abundant love.